The Cross
This position is somewhat easier to maintain if the man lies beneath on his back and the woman is in control.
How
to Do
In the Cross Sex Position:
- The woman lies on her back on the bed and the man lies diagonally across her.
- She opens her legs to allow him to enter and he rocks gently from side to side.
- She can guide his movements with the pressure of her hands.
Because it is hard to enter on an angle it is advised you enter in the common missionary then twist to then twist to both reduce fumbling time and maximize depth.
The missionary position is the most popular sex position for many reasons. Many women consider it the most romantic position, almost certainly because the couple are always face to face. Every expression can be noticed, they are free to kiss, and each partner can see that they are being loved – something that is not possible in some other positions, such as rear-entry ones.
The missionary position, being such a passive one for the woman, absolves her of the responsibility of making anything much happen. Some women can relax and enjoy lovemaking more if they do not take a dominant, active role.
Many women experience great pleasure from being dominated during intercourse. Some women enjoy sex particularly if the man is in control and makes everything happen. Missionary position sex is ideal for this. The man, being on top, controls the thrusting and can pin the woman down to the bed and take her roughly and at his pace.
Being ‘taken’ like this can be highly exciting to some women. For the woman who is at all guilty about sexual needs and appetites, this position leaves her free of guilt about sex, because she can think of herself as being overpowered by a much stronger man.
*Use massage oil for extra sensuality in missionary position sex. Oil each other, avoiding the pelvis if using condoms, then slip-slide away
More than just romantic
The missionary position lays neither partner open to strangeness, anxiety and unfamiliarity. The woman’s hands are free to caress the man. This could be especially valuable – showing him that he is loved and wanted in the new relationship.
Because the man has control of the thrusting he can control his speed to orgasm. This is good news for the individual who fears losing control of ejaculation. A ‘trigger-happy’ man can thus stop when he feels ejaculation approaching, and a man who needs a great deal of thrusting to maintain his erection will also benefit.
Advantages of the Cross position
- Both partners can see each other and make eye contact, thereby receiving feedback from their facial expressions, breathing, and vocalizations
- Penetration is relatively deep
- The man's groin can directly or indirectly stimulate the clitoris, depending on how the act is performed
- A relatively quick male orgasm can be achieved if so desired; conversely, the greater control afforded the man enables him to delay his orgasm and thereby prolong the copulatory act
- The woman may enjoy the sensation of submission to the male and the freedom to caress him as she chooses
- The woman is able to either hasten or delay both her orgasm and that of her partner through voluntary, rhythmic flexation and relaxation of the pubococcygeus muscles surrounding her vagina
- Very little suppleness or flexibility is required of either partner. Both are able to remain relatively relaxed and avoid fatigue
- The intimacy of full-body contact affords a heightened sensual and emotional experience for both the male and female
- The man can reach under and stimulate his partner using his fingers on her clitoris
Disadvantages of the Cross position
- If the man's weight is placed upon the woman as it may be uncomfortable for her, to avoid this the man can support his weight upon his arms and knees, which may become tiring for him
- Some women do not enjoy the possibly submissive sensation of being under their partner
- Because it is hard to enter on an angle it is advised you enter in the common missionary then twist to form the cross position.
References: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Main_Page | http://www.loversguide.com | http://www.sexinfo101.com
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