The Cross

The Cross is a variation of the missionary position with relatively deep penetration. This position is fairly relaxed and allows the man's groin to directly or indirectly stimulate the clitoris. The man can also reach under and manually stimulate his partner's clitoris. This position can be somewhat easier if the man lies beneath on his back and the woman is in control.

This position is intense and romantic, giving a more heightened sensual and emotional experience to both partners especially when done slowly. Couples can see the expressions of their partner and know that the they are being satisfied. The Cross requires little suppleness or flexibility, allowing the couple to remain relatively relaxed and avoid fatigue.

A relatively quick male orgasm can be achieved if desired. For a man who fears losing control of his ejaculation he can control his thrusting and speed delaying his orgasm and prolonging the lovemaking. A woman is able to either hasten or delay both her orgasm and that of her partner through voluntary, rhythmic flexing and relaxation of the pubococcygeus muscles surrounding her vagina.

How it works:

In the Cross position the woman lies on her back on the bed and the man lies diagonally across her. The woman opens her legs to allow him to enter. Because it is hard to enter on an angle it is advised you enter in the common missionary then twist to then twist to both reduce fumbling time and maximize the depth. The man penetrates her by rocking gently from side to side and the woman can can guide his movements with the pressure of her hands.

Some disadvantages to The Cross can be:

• the weight of the man can be uncomfortable for the woman, to reduce this the man can support himself on his arms and knees which can become tiring for him
  
  
• the man having most control leaving the woman to be submissive is not enjoyable for some women
  
  
• it is quite hard to enter on this angle and it is suggested that you enter in the missionary position then twist to form the cross position

 

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