Sex Position - Woman on Top

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The Woman on Top Position

How to Do

In the Woman on Top sex position:

The man lies on his back while his female partner straddles him
His movement is limited by her weight, and she can control the depth of thrusting
Both partners can stroke her breasts, clitoris, back and buttocks, and she can caress his chest, arms and testicles
The woman can move her hips in either a thrusting or a rocking motion, and she may control the degree of stimulation she offers the man by limiting the extent to which she moves up and down on his penis shaft
All in all, a very exciting position, with a lot of possibilities.

Variations

Variations on the woman on top positions are all about the angle of the penis in the vagina, and the fact that the woman gets different sensations when the man penetrates her from different angles. This can be exciting for the man as well, of course, because different positions stimulate different parts of his penis and also put different degrees of pressure on it. A couple can have a great deal of fun and be very playful in experimenting with these different sexual positions.

The woman on top faces away from the man

When the woman sits on top of her man and then leans forward as far as is comfortable, they are both likely to get intense vaginal and penile stimulation. This is not something that all men will find comfortable, especially a man whose erection is hard and upright and normally stands against his stomach, for his penis may be bent uncomfortably. Even so, sex in this position can be very stimulating one for the woman, because it allows her to ride his penis while her G-spot is stimulated. This is shown in the third picture below.

The woman on top faces towards the man

Some of the possible things you can to do for greater enjoyment when leaning forward in this position include kissing, playing with the woman's anus or the man's balls, and kissing and licking her breasts.

A loving embrace

A very loving and gentle sex position that goes far beyond just "fucking" is the one shown in the picture below. The position can also be tried with the man kneeling as well as the woman. Once the couple have placed their arms around each other, they can remain upright for some time, bodies locked together.

Sex in this position allows a couple who love each other to maintain an embrace with a union of penis and vagina as well as their bodies. By remaining still, that is, not thrusting, but just touching, talking, eye gazing, and loving each other, it is possible to experience a deep feeling of intimacy and connection. If you try this, allow yourselves to experience the depth of your connection. Breath out deeply a few times to relax the parts of your body that may be tense, and you will feel yourselves slipping into a realm of deeper sexual union.

The woman on top position, is also called the reverse missionary, jackhammer, or cowgirl.

The name derives from the image of the woman "riding" the man like a cowgirl rides a bucking horse. It is one of a number of female superior sexual positions, another being the reverse cowgirl.

For the woman who likes to take the initiative and the man who enjoys watching his partner as they make love, woman-on-top sex positions cannot be beaten. And with deep penetration as an added bonus, they can increase the sexual pleasure for both partners in any loving relationship by adding new sensations to your lovemaking.

Almost all men say that, on some occasions at least, they like to have the initiative taken away from them and, just as some women feel flattered to be taken with great ardour, so it is also true that many men like to be 'taken' by their female partner in this way.

Increasing arousal

Before penetration, it can be fun for both if the woman teases a little. She can hold her lover's penis firmly, masturbating him while touching her vagina with the tip of it. She can also use it to stimulate her clitoris and her vaginal lips before any actual penetration. Play this game until neither of you can, nor wants to, hold back any longer.

Control is one of the first reasons women give when stating a preference for the woman-on-top sex positions. Once the penis enters the vagina, the woman is in control of it in a way she cannot ever be when being penetrated in any other way.

Angle and rhythm

Once in position, the woman can change the angle and rhythm of penetration as she pleases, by rocking backwards and forwards and from side to side, swiveling her pelvis or moving up and down.

She can also lean forward to kiss her lover, sit up while he runs his hands over her body, reach to stroke his scrotum or anus, or lean back to let his penis push against her G-spot on the front wall of her vagina.

But most importantly she can alter the depth of penetration to suit herself and her lover.

Gentle movements

Many women find that if they are in a position where they are leaning backwards, they can only move their hips very slightly. But small, rhythmic movements of the pelvis can give you both entirely different sensations. The temptation to continue in a thrusting motion is a strong one, but slow, gentle movements in this position can prolong the lovemaking and lead to a deeply satisfying climax for both.

It is very easy to stimulate the woman's clitoris in this position. The woman can squat or lie to bring it into contact with the man's pubic bone and then move her hips to rub against him, or it can be slowly and carefully caressed by hand.

The basic woman-on-top sex position begins with the man lying flat on his back. The woman kneels astride his body, facing his head, and gently guides his penis inside her. By moving her body up and down she can control both the speed and depth of penetration and her hands are free to caress him. He can handle her body and breasts and he can see his penis going into her.

From this position, the woman can lean forwards so that her breasts rest on her lover's chest or over his face. This reduces the range of her movement, but she can still raise and lower her hips over the penis while her partner is able to bury his face between her breasts and lick and suck her nipples.

It can be easy for the man's penis to slip out of the woman when she leans forward in this way. However, if she keeps her movements small and shallow, or simply presses herself firmly down on his penis and then circles her hips around the base instead of using sliding movements up and down the shaft, there should not be a problem.

*Most men love the rich curves of a woman's bottom and this is one way to appreciate them to the full, while also watching their penis going into their lover.

Facing away

The other basic woman-on-top sex position is for the woman to kneel astride the man's penis, but facing away from him. This offers deep penetration and allows him to caress her back, the lower region of her body and her anus. He can watch his penis going in and out of her, especially if she leans forward, and she can stimulate her clitoris with one hand.

Facing away from the man can be as sensuous as facing towards him, as in this position the woman can caress his testicles and inner thighs. The athletic can swivel around from a facing position on his erect penis. This can be a whole new pleasure for both.

When the woman is facing away, the man can touch and squeeze the full curve of her buttocks and run his fingers over and around her anus.

Erotic

Many men find it highly erotic to watch themselves entering the woman, and of course this position offers the perfect view. It is also good for deep penetration and for stimulating the female G-spot, which is on the front wall of the vagina.

Of course, in this position the couple cannot watch each other's facial reactions, and the man cannot always handle the woman's breasts during lovemaking. But this need not be a disadvantage for a couple; it is simply a matter of choosing to experience different sensations for different times and moods.

In either of the basic woman-on-top sex positions - woman facing man, woman facing away - there are delightful variations. The woman can kneel, squat or sit with her legs out straight. If she wants the sensation of more contact, she can lie stretched out on top of the man and feel his skin along the full length of her body.

She can also sit sideways on her lover's penis and bring his leg up between hers and towards her chest. This is a particularly good position for couples who enjoy the sensation of deep penetration.

Watching and listening

As always when making love, take care to watch or listen to your lover's reactions. This way you will quickly find out what pleases each of you and how you can best work to increase each other's pleasure, arousal and satisfaction. If her lover is uncircumcised, she can gently push back his foreskin as far as it will go and then move up and down on the exposed head of his penis. This is easier from a squatting position, which is tiring to hold but it gives a man intense pleasure and can make him come very quickly. Penetration is obviously quite shallow, so this may be less exciting for the couple.

For deep penetration, another idea is for her to take him fully inside her and then pulse her fingertips fast against the base of his penis, with the heel of her hand resting on her lower stomach. If she positions her fingers so that they vibrate her clitoris at the same time, it can be intensely exciting for both.

In many lovemaking positions, the woman's movements are restricted. Most woman-on-top positions, however, offer her more freedom to move as she pleases. She can even change positions mid-way through the lovemaking, still keeping her partner's penis inside her.

*Making love with the woman on top allows you to use your imagination in a variety of sex positions. You can also enjoy some really erotic foreplay.

Making it last

If the man does not want to come too quickly, woman-on-top sex positions are good for practicing delayed ejaculation - especially useful for men who sometimes suffer from premature ejaculation.

A man's erection and ejaculation reflexes are slowed down when he is on his back and there is time to use the special 'squeeze technique' of preventing ejaculation. If he feels he is coming too soon, he can signal to the woman who can take his penis out and squeeze the top of the glands firmly between her fingers until he begins to lose his erection. She can then re-arouse him and they can continue making love.

Pregnancy

Woman-on-top sex positions are ideal during pregnancy. There is no pressure on the woman's stomach and it is easy for her to make sure that the depth and the speed of penetration are comfortable. The man can see and touch her new, full shape, and this kind of gentle, tender lovemaking can be highly arousing for both partners. In this way, intercourse can be possible almost entirely throughout the pregnancy.

Woman-on-top sex positions are also useful if the man is recovering from a serious illness or surgery, or the woman has recently given birth, because the woman can relax, knowing that her partner will not overdo things.

It is also important to remember that everyone is built differently. Some women's genitals are set very much more forward than others’. This brings the penis into contact with the clitoris in a different way and means that deep penetration for one couple will be shallow for another. As with all sex positions, experimentation is the key, and with a little imagination you will soon find out what suits you both.

Advantages of Woman on Top positions

Penetration is quite deep, and the woman can control the depth and intensity of penetration.
Clitoral pressure may not be very intense for some women, but can be provided by hand, or by the man periodically semi-withdrawing and manipulating his penis against the woman's clitoris, or by other means.

Proponents of the cowgirl position say there are these advantages:

Both partners can see one another, and in particular the man can view and caress the woman's breasts while they are in a more natural position.
Often the man can delay his orgasm longer in this position.
The position is far less tiring for the man as he does not have to support his weight while also being physically active.
The woman may take a relatively static position, so that she does not tire (by supporting her upper body with her extended arms with her torso almost horizontal), while the man, not having to support his weight can be quite active without fatigue.
This variation eases the strain of motion upon the woman's knees, which may be an advantage for some women.
The woman can control the depth, intensity, and angle of penetration, and enjoy the dominant feeling of being in control.
The man can enjoy receiving pleasure while relaxing.
The woman can easily stimulate her clitoris with her hand (if in the upright version).
The man can stimulate the woman's clitoris with his hand, though some find the thumb to be more comfortable.
If sitting upright, the woman can reach behind her to stimulate the man's testicles.
The man can caress the woman's buttocks and stimulate the anus.
In a variant position in which the woman is on top and leaning over the man, the man and woman can embrace and kiss while the man is penetrating the woman. He can also caress her breasts in the position.
Unlike in the missionary position, in this position the woman has the active role while the man has the passive role.
It has received a reputation as sexual method of waking up a partner. This has often been referred to as a "Cowgirl Wake Up"
Sex toys that are meant to go around the penis and provide clitoral stimulation for the woman are often most effective with this position.
As well as being enjoyable for its own vanilla sexual pleasure, this position is a good position for play with sexual dominance: some women like to take control of the man by holding his arms down, and some men like to take control of the woman by taking hold of her arms behind her back. Those of a switchy disposition can move from one to the other and back again. Some consider this to be a position which is particularly suited to female dominance.

Disadvantages of Woman on Top positions

For people who like a lot of thrusting penetration, this position can be unsatisfying.
As well, for the time that the woman is actually sitting up, there is less body to body contact than other positions (it’s not very cuddly, if that’s what you are looking for).

Variations of Woman on Top positions

The Acrobat

The Acrobat